Queer Inheritance
Elders are not just storytellers and teachers, but guardians of cultural heritage and stewards of spirituality. The elders in my biological family passed mostly in my teenage years, taking with them their stories, lived knowledge, and guidance. I’ve felt cheated out of that historical inheritance, attempting over the years to salvage what’s left–the pursuit of which evolved into a thirteen year portrait project centered on my family. I hadn’t realized during those thirteen years what I was searching for might only be found in queer chosen family, an understanding that my biological elders would likely be incapable of nurturing my gay identity.
While the gravity of intergenerational relationships is evident across communities around the globe, these kinds of relationships are often absent or harder to cultivate within the queer community. By exploring the impact the absence of such relationships had in cultivating my own queer identity, Queer Inheritance takes a closer look, through cross-generational dialogue and photographic preservation, at the cultural necessity these relationships have within our chosen families.
Paul Monette, author, poet, and activist whose life and writing inspired the genesis of this project, wrote shortly before his AIDS-related death in 1995 on the loss of a queer friend and elder, “I understand now that it wasn’t just a friend who’d been taken away from me, but an elder and a mentor. [She] was my pioneer, a link to the dreams that made me different, the push I needed to go my own way”.
These portraits emphasize what we could lose from the absence of intergenerational chosen families, not only from a historical perspective but a spiritual one. They also serve to remind us that the fight for gay liberation was not long ago, and in fact a growing LGBTQ+ rights movement is presently unfolding. Seventy-six year old political gay rights activist and storyteller David Mixner expressed to me, “I feel like before I go, I have to shut out the lights for my generation”. As a storyteller myself, this portrait series is my contribution to the custodians of our queer inheritance, a link to the dreams that made me different.